For as long as I can remember, I looked forward to attending the Essence Music Festival. I remember seeing photos from Jet magazine on my cousins' and Uncles walls, and regularly seeing Essence and Ebony Magazines on the coffee tables at all my family's homes. So when the in-person music festival kicked off, I was beyond excited to one day attend. I literally dreamed about attending when I was "old enough" to do so. The festival was a classy event, in stark contrast to the infamous "Freaknik" going down each year in Atlanta. So for more than 20 years, this event has been a well-respected and classy event.
Until this year that is.
This year, ratchet entered the chat. 🥴
Now don't get me wrong, I have plenty of clubbing days in my past where twerking was absolutely on the menu.
But that was the club. 👈🏽 Environment matters.
But noooo. This year, Megan and Janelle brought twerking to the center stage of our beloved music festival. This sanctuary where we have long been able to escape the over-sexualized images being associated with our peers - is no longer sacred. In the coveted space where our brains were celebrated just as much as our beauty, we have allowed our booty to steal the show once again. 🤦🏽♀️
But... they didn't stop there.
As if the rachetity was not enough, Megan the Stallion had the gall to announce, "We want ya'll, but we don't really need ya'll ni$$@s!"
I get she is famous and all, but ummmmm issa hard no for me!
Here are the facts of which Megan is clearly ignorant. ⤵️
The belief that women want, but don't need men has its roots in the rise of feminist movements and the push for gender equality. While it's important to empower women and emphasize their ability to be self-sufficient, experts have pointed out several potential negative consequences of this belief:
Undermining Interpersonal Relationships: This belief can undervalue the importance of interpersonal relationships, which are fundamental to human well-being. According to a study published in the Journal of Marriage and Family, having a supportive partner can contribute positively to mental and physical health.
Promoting Division: Instead of fostering understanding and cooperation between genders, this belief might foster division. It's healthier to view relationships not merely in terms of 'want' or 'need', but rather as partnerships built on mutual respect, love, and support.
Feeding Stereotypes: This belief can inadvertently reinforce harmful stereotypes that men are disposable or unnecessary, which is not true. Men play crucial roles in families, communities, and societies.
Impact on Children: The belief can also have an impact on children growing up in environments where the role of men is diminished or dismissed. Numerous studies, including one from the U.S. Department of Health & Human Services, highlight the importance of the involvement of both parents in a child's life for their healthy development.
Ignoring Biological Differences: Men and women have biological and psychological differences that complement each other in many ways. Ignoring these differences can lead to a lack of understanding and appreciation for what each gender brings to the table.
It's important to note that the belief in question is not about promoting independence and strength in women, which is positive, but rather the idea of not needing men, which can be problematic when it dismisses the value of healthy, interdependent relationships.
Keep it real with me... Do you believe you need your man, or is he disposable in your perspective too? 🤔
Confident Vibes and Serenity,
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